{Update} 30 Things in my 30’s

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So I’m one year into my thirties now so how am I doing on the old 30 Things in my 30’s list? Well, not too bad really. Here is an update on where I’m at.


1. Start a letter writers group in Guernsey – The Guernsey Letter Writers Society was established in September 2017

2. Become a blood donor – I wasn’t actually able to become a blood donor so signed up for the Anthony Nolan Trust instead.

3. Sign up to be an organ donor

4. Go to a West End Show in London – I saw Aladdin in June 2017 and I’m actually seeing Wicked this weekend!

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In Progress…

5. Learn calligraphy – still practicing!

6. Get fit (aka. get back to pre-pregnancy weight) – Currently 16lbs down and still going.

7. Go to 10 new (to me) restaurants on the island – 3 Down. 7 to Go. (So far ticked off Copenhagen, The Rockmount & Buho)

8. Go on a weekend away with a gal pal – London trip scheduled for this weekend!

9. Take my girls to the Lake District – Family holiday planned for Autumn 2019.

10. Take my girls to the other Channel Islands1 Down. 4 to Go. (So far ticked off Herm)

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Not Yet…

12. Get a good camera and learn how to use it!

13. Go on a flower arranging course

14. Learn to embroider

15. Open an Etsy shop

16. Make a patchwork quilt for each of my girls

17. Get a pet (most likely a rabbit)

18. Go kayaking

19. Start a veggie patch

20. Climb a mountain

21. Make a Will

22. Donate my wedding dress to charity

23. Walk the entire cliffs of Guernsey (in stages)

24. Read all of Agatha Christie’s Poirot

25. Go to the Bristol Balloon Fiesta

26. Visit Keighley in Yorkshire (where my Gran was evacuated to during WW2)

27. Visit friends in New Zealand

28. Visit an Asian country

29. Grow our family through adoption

30. Celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary in style!


What things do you have on your bucket list?

{Books Lately} May 2017

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Wow! It’s been a long time since I shared with you some of the books I’ve been reading lately. I’m not gonna lie, I’m a particularly slow reader in this stage of life. Sometimes I just don’t have the energy to get through the books I want to so for months my books sit forlornly on the coffee table as I slowly work my way through.

However I have finally got through enough books for a blog post, so here are some short and sweet reviews of the books I’ve been reading lately.

Lessons from Madame ChicLessons from Madame Chic: 20 Style Secrets I Learned While Living in Paris by Jennifer L. Scott

This book was recommended to me after I finished reading French Kids Eat Everything back in March of last year. French lifestyle has really begun to intrigue me and this book has some good observations to glean from. Jennifer L. Scott spent 6 months living in a Parisian home as an exchange student and learnt many lessons from observing her hostess. The first few chapters about Parisian life and french fashion were particularly interesting, but as the book went on I felt the lessons got a little more wooly and simplistic, many of which weren’t particularly new to me, such as using manners or trying to perfect the no make up look. Despite this I enjoyed her conversational style of writing and short chapters, which for a busy Mum enabled me to get through it pretty quickly. I think this book is targeted mainly at university students and women in their early twenties who still very much feel on a journey to becoming a woman and could use some pointers along the way as they develop their own sense of style and class.

Raising Girls by Steve Biddulph Raising Girls by Steve Biddulph

As a mother of girls it is alarming to read about the decline in the mental health of young girls, which now more often than not, starts in the primary school years as children are hurried towards adulthood and exposed to more stresses than in previous generations. The book covers all the tricky topics we parents often worry about such as bullying, body image, eating disorders and social media threats, but rather than alarming you and leaving you feeling hopelessly overwhelmed Steve Biddulph manages to be incredibly informative and yet wonderfully empowering at the same time. The five key stages of girlhood are set out chronologically throughout the book allowing you easy access to each developmental stage and the challenges it brings. I personally feel this book is full of parenting wisdom, it encourages you to consider where your daughter is at whilst giving you tips on how to connect with and support her at each age. Summed up Raising Girls is the ultimate parenting guidebook for girlhood that you can pick up and delve into as your daughter grows.

Dear Enemy by Jean Webster Dear Enemy by Jean Webster

This is the sequel to the the ever popular Daddy-Long-Legs which sees orphan girl Judy Abbot fall in love with the mysterious benefactor with whom she corresponds with via letter throughout the book. Dear Enemy takes on the same writing style of Daddy-Long-Legs, but this time the letters are being sent by the young and witty society girl Sallie McBride, the college friend of Judy that we met in the first book. It follows the trials and tribulations of Sallie as she becomes superintendent to the orphan asylum in which her friend Judy grew up as well as her tumultuous relationship with a Scottish doctor whom Sallie refers to as “Dear Enemy.” I personally found the insights into orphanage life in the early 1900’s rather interesting, one most be warned that as this is set one hundred years ago the language and political views of the time are perhaps not what we would consider to be PC today, but are representative of the era in which it is set and not necessarily the authors own personal views. This is an enjoyable read, perhaps not quite as good as Daddy-Long-Legs but humorous and enjoyable nonetheless.

What books have you been reading lately?


{Books Lately} July 2016

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Well it’s been a long time since I shared with you some of the books I’ve been reading as I’ve kind of had a bit of reading block these past few months and just couldn’t work my way through anything, until recently. I then devoured 3 books in just over a month, which is actually a lot for me. So here I am linking up with Quick Lit over on Modern Mrs Darcy again to share with you some short and sweet reviews of the books I’ve been reading lately.

Books Lately July 2016 | The Open HomeThe Rings of My Tree: A Latvian Woman’s Journey by Jane E. Cunningham

Once started this book is hard to put down. I have read quite a few biographies by survivors of World War Two, mainly set in the Netherlands and mainly written by Jews or those trying to hide the Jews, but this book is different. Mirdza is not a Jew so this book does not follow the usual theme of holocaust horrors but instead highlights the journey of a young Latvian woman who is forced to flee her country in 1944, not because of the threat of the Nazis, but because of the invasion of The Red Army. I had never before considered the double threat that eastern Europe and the Baltic States faced with both the Nazis and the Soviets fighting to claim their soil. The end of the war did not bring freedom to Latvia it brought a new regime that would be in power for many years to come. I could feel Mirdza’s anger and anguish as she faced life as a displaced person, an incredibly fascinating account particularly in light of the current refugee crisis that is happening today in Europe. The story is a wonderful reminder that “where there is life, there is hope.”

Books Lately July 2016 | The Open HomeThe Earth is Singing by Vanessa Curtis

Continuing with the theme of World War Two and Latvia this fictional story is inspired by the authors own Latvian Jewish heritage. The story starts in June 1941 when the Nazis “liberate” Latvia from the Soviets and swiftly put their anti-semitic plans into place. As told by Hanna, an ordinary fifteen year old girl who also happens to be a Jew, life is about to change drastically. This book is beautifully written, incredibly thought provoking and yet horrific at the same time. This book highlights the pain that is felt when your own community seem to have turned against you, a fresh perspective that is not always explored in other books set in the same era. As with reading all books detailing the holocaust it is hard to comprehend how some people can treat their fellow human beings in such a harsh and evil way. This book is very detailed which is why I also recommend it with a brief word of warning: do not read this book before going to bed! The story follows the historic events of the Rumbula massacre which is incredibly disturbing. I’ve been reading books about World War Two and the holocaust since my mid teens but never before have I read of an event quite so wretched. Despite the horrors, this is a story that should be told.

                             The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese art of decluttering and organising by Marie KondoBooks Lately July 2016 | The Open Home

As a self confessed neat freak, books about decluttering and organising always appeal to me as I’m always looking for new ways to fine hone my system. However, I’m also a bit wary of these books as some I’ve read in the past have been so basic they’ve just not offered me anything new. I’m pleased to confirm though that The KonMari method however, does have a lot to offer even the tidiest of people.  Marie Kondo is a cleaning consultant based in Japan and by the sounds of it works with some hardcore hoarders. This book is not really about everyday tidying up (which is really just putting things back in their place) but rather about the one-off decluttering and organising that will put your house in order. The first step is to work your way through her suggested categories and discard, discard, discard! Most of her clients discard at least two thirds of their belongings and are left with only the items that truly bring them joy. Her guidance of only keeping items that spark joy has become one of the main things that sets her approach aside from others, that and her folding and storage method for clothing, both of which I can confirm work really well in practice. If you struggle to keep your home tidy, desperately need to declutter or like me just enjoy organising your home then this book is definitely worth a read.

What books have you been reading lately?

{Books Lately} March 2016

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My reading has slowed down a little of late mainly because most of my spare time this past month has gone on letter writing and mail art. However I am still linking up with Quick Lit over on Modern Mrs Darcy to share with you some short and sweet reviews of a couple of books I’ve been reading lately.

Screen Shot 2016-03-09 at 22.47.22Daddy-Long-Legs by Jean Webster

I adore reading books that are written in letters and this childhood classic by Jean Webster did not disappoint. Set in the early 1900’s the story follows orphan Jerusha “Judy” Abbott through her college years as she sets out to become a writer. Judy writes rather witty letters to her anonymous and rich benefactor, a trustee of the old fashioned orphanage where she grew up. I was able to guess who Daddy-Long-Legs was early on in the book but this did not take away from the books charm, it’s an incredibly enjoyable read with themes of social reform and women’s rights. I now plan to read the sequel to this story, Dear Enemy.

Screen Shot 2016-03-09 at 22.46.57French Kids Eat Everything by Karen Le Billion

When it comes to food (and fashion) the French seem to know what they are doing, don’t they? This book is the personal story of a Canadian mother who moved to France with her french husband and two young daughters only to discover that here children ate “grown up” up food. What followed was a year of food education that led to her coming up with ten food rules that took her girls from being incredibly picky to gourmet eaters. These food rules are mainly things to encourage or avoid, such as encourage family meal times and avoid snacking and eating alone. I was able to glean a lot from this book. Thankfully my girls are usually good eaters, but I have definitely picked up on some areas to work on both for them and for me. I highly recommend it to parents who are willing to put in the hard work and for adults in general who want to improve their own eating habits.


What books have you been reading lately?

{Books Lately} February 2016

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Due to computer issues I was too late to link up with Quick Lit over on Modern Mrs Darcy last month. However, I’ve been rather pleased with my reading attempts of late. I’ve been managing to squeeze in lots of reading time despite my toddler dropping her lunchtime nap and I’ve even managed to add in some fiction! So here you have it, some some short and sweet reviews of the books I’ve been reading lately.

Simplicity Parenting Book ImageSimplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne

This is quite simply the BEST PARENTING BOOK I have ever read! It’s full of so much good stuff that I intermittently go back and re-read it to keep things fresh in my mind. Kim John Payne is a Child Psychologist with experience working in war torn countries in south east Asia. He was shocked to discover when returning to the US that many children were presenting with the same symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder as the children he had worked with overseas. The reason for this he discovered was the strain of a life lived with “too much” – too much stuff, too much information, too many choices and too much stress, all at a pace that is unsustainable and leads to burnout. So the answer? Simplify.

This book is not about making parenting simple but about parenting with the goal of simplicity for your child. The book of course tackles topics such as how to simplify your home, which toys to chuck out, how to manage screen time etc, but it is the chapters on rhythm and filtering out the adult world that I found most interesting. I highly recommend this book to all parents and parents-to-be, it’s easier to start as you mean to go on that’s for sure, but it’s never to late to slow things down and make the changes that will enable your child to enjoy a more carefree childhood.

You Are Your Child's First Teacher Book ImageYou Are Your Childs First Teacher by Rahima Baldwin Dancy

I’ve always had a particular interest in earlier years education, probably because my Mum ran a preschool and I too considered this career pathway whilst in high school. I actually ended up going the health and social care route rather than the child care one but my interest remains the same, hence this book. Drawing from her experiences with Waldorf Steiner education, Rahima Baldwin Dancy shows that education starts way before formal schooling. The parents are in fact the child’s first teachers and the home the basis for all learning. I love this view, it definitely resonates with me.

The chapters explaining child development are particularly interesting and I have found them to be of use with understanding the developmental stages of my own girls and how to encourage their learning rather than hinder it. Interestingly this book also focuses a lot on rhythm in family life and how this helps children to thrive in the early years and beyond. Definitely worth a read if you are interested in child development, early years education and home education.

And the Shofar Blew Book ImageAnd the Shofar Blew by Francine Rivers

I always enjoy a Francine Rivers book. I love how her Christian fiction can be so relevant to real life, feeding my faith and recharging my batteries at the same time. This book follows the story of an enthusiastic young pastor who loses his way over the years, neglecting his family and turning from his faith, all consumed by his ambition to grow his church. This was not my favourite Francine Rivers book but it is most definitely a good read and I really got into it. As a young pastor’s wife myself, I could appreciate the many pressures and temptations that the young couple in ministry were facing, having already experienced some of them myself. This book speaks truth for all Christians though, not just those in full-time vocational ministry and is a wonderful illustration of our call to act justly, love mercy and walk humbly.

The Guernsey Literary & Potato Peel Pie Society Book ImageThe Guernsey Literary & Potato Peel Pie Society by Mary Ann Shaffer and Annie Barrows

As a Guernsey girl I admit I was slightly nervous to read this book in case I was disappointed by it’s portrayal of Guernsey life, but it turns out I need not have been nervous.  The authors have captured both occupied Guernsey and the post war period incredibly well and I found the book hard to put down. Without giving to much of the story away, the main character Juliet finds herself in Guernsey following a brief correspondence with the Guernsey Literary & Potato Peel Society members, who are all rather lovable and incredibly quirky. She hopes to write a book about island life during the German occupation from 1940-1945, so is on island to interview members of the society. She inevitably falls in love with the island, just as the author, Mary Ann Shaffer did all those years before. It truly is a delightful read that also touches on some of the heartbreaking truths of the war. This book is perfect for letter lovers and history enthusiasts of which I am both, it will leave you uplifted and in need of your own literary society.

What books have you been reading lately?

{Books Lately} September 2015

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Once again I am linking up with Quick Lit over on Modern Mrs Darcy to share with you some short and sweet reviews of the books I’ve been reading lately. Here are the notable.

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The Sixty Minute Mother by Rob Parsons

The Husby read “The Sixty Minute Father” soon after we became parents and quickly declared he would re-read this book every year. So when I came across “The Sixty Minute Mother” on the church bookstall for a bargain price, I just had to give it a go. This book encouraged and challenged me in three very specific ways. Firstly, that as a mother I need to accept my children and not just love them, love and acceptance are two very different things. Two, that “if we do this, we can’t do that” and it’s as simple as that. Whether I work at home caring for my children or work outside the home serving others, I will be missing out on something and yet gaining something else. And thirdly, I learnt that parenting isn’t for cowards, my days with my girls safely tucked in my nest are numbered and one day I will need to let them go (and how I handle that is pretty key to our adult relationship). And did I read it in sixty minutes I hear you ask? Unfortunately it took me longer, but then I am a slow reader who also had to deal with a clingy toddler and cranky baby in between chapters.

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Home for Good by Krish Kandiah

It is estimated that a child enters care in the UK every 22 minutes. In this book, Krish Kandiah challenges the church to better play it’s part in caring for the orphans in our midst, known better in todays context as vulnerable children. It’s a well balanced mix of Biblical teaching, insightful case studies and practical considerations that make it deeply challenging and truly gripping. This book left me feeling heart broken, convicted, daunted and inspired all at the same time, a very dangerous combination!

  • Heartbroken – for the thousands of vulnerable children in the UK alone that are in need of a home for good.
  • Convicted – that I very much have a part to play in this hard but rewarding mission.
  • Daunted – at the responsibility and difficulties that would come with caring for such children.
  • Inspired – by the difference the church could make it it chooses to support the care of vulnerable children in our own communities.

I ask that everyone read this book, but do so with caution, it will open your eyes, it will convict you and it will change you.

In Defense of the Fatherless Book ImageIn Defense of the Fatherless
by Sara Brinton & Amanda Bennett

Continuing with the theme of vulnerable children, this book is a very brave attempt at redeeming international orphan care. The book focuses on the three main responses to the orphan crisis in the developing world: orphan care, short term missions and international adoption and highlights that despite many good intentions to help ‘our response to the orphan crisis runs the real risk of exploiting vulnerable families and children’. I have to admit as someone who has met orphans, been on several short term mission trips and who doesn’t rule out international adoption for my own family, this book thoroughly depressed me (as all books discussing the orphan crisis should do, I guess?) and yet, by the end it had also filled me with great hope. Hope that there is a way to help without hurting, a way to be obedient to our Biblical call to defend the fatherless. I recommend this book to anyone who supports orphan care ministries, to anyone planning on serving overseas and to anyone interested in international adoption. Despite being an emotionally challenging read, it is an important one that discusses the ethics and common misconceptions surrounding the care of orphans and vulnerable families.

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The Nesting Place by Myquillyn Smith

Regular blog readers out there will have no doubt stumbled across popular blogger Myquillyn Smith, aka “The Nester” at some point. Her delightful blog, Nesting Place shares the secrets of decorating for real people and with some wonderful results. This book came out at just the right time for me, coordinating perfectly with our move into our new home earlier this year. As a recovering perfectionist and self-confessed neat freak, decorating can be somewhat trying but I can honestly say this book has been so freeing for me, enabling me to take on board the many practical tips Myquillyn has to share. This book has given me the courage to take risks, to get on with some projects and to ignore those well intentioned voices that say to go cream when in my gut I know I want to paint the walls white. It’s helped me to prioritise my spending and work out which items I feel are worth splurging on, like light fixtures and bed linen and which items I think I can make savings on, like cabinets and chests. This book has also encouraged me to define my own decorating style, thus knowing when to stay clear of the trends that just aren’t me – like cow hide rugs and wall antlers – and when to stick with the things I love, like hanging my wall gallery even if one off statement pieces are currently the in thing. ‘It doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful’ has become my decorating mantra, which you will now often find me muttering under my breath as I nervously paint up another piece of furniture or sew some simple homemade curtains. As Myquillyn says, “Done is Better than Perfect” and I have to agree. It’s a perfect coffee table book full of beautiful photos and easy to read chapters that you can keep coming back to.

What books have you been reading lately?

{Books Lately} July 2015

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Today I am linking up with Quick Lit over on Modern Mrs Darcy to share with you some short and sweet reviews of the books I’ve been reading lately. Here are the notable.

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Women Are Scary by Melanie Dale

Since becoming a mother I have realised that women are indeed very scary. This mummy gig is pretty isolating and with most of my friends either working nine to fives or living overseas I knew it was time to branch out and start dating some other mums. Enter Melanie Dale and her humorous book on developing ‘mom-lationships’. I enjoyed Melanie’s down to earth writing style, which is consistent with the writings over on her blog. It is full of lots of common sense advice that acts as a helpful reminder on how to pursue new friendships. The baseball analogy used was particularly helpful and enabled me to identify potential friendships and evaluate the bases my current ‘mom-lationships’ are at and come up with a strategy on how to move these forward. It’s an easy read which will have you laughing out loud.

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Replenish by Lisa Grace Byrne

Motherhood is one of the biggest blessings, it brings so much joy and yet it drains so much energy. This is the paradox of motherhood that Lisa Grace Byrne describes in Replenish. As a mother there is a fine line between sacrificing for your children and neglecting your own self care. After reaching a point of complete burnout, Lisa Grace Byrne identified eight core essentials that we mothers need to work on to experience true health and vitality. From nourishing food to joyful movement, authentic connections and anchored quiet – these were the cores that shouted for my attention first. Full of insight and practical tips on how to care for the woman behind the mother, her studies in biochemistry, nutrition and public health along with her accreditation as an holistic therapist fill you with confidence that she clearly knows what she is talking about! This a book all mothers with kiddies still in the nest should own, it’s a great manual for motherhood, a book you will keep coming back to. Five stars from me.

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Clutterfree with Kids by Joshua Becker

It turns out I’m a minimalist and didn’t even know it! I just thought I was a neat freak who didn’t like clutter. Living clutterfree with kids is definitely more of a challenge though, hence why I got a copy of this book. I ended up skimming through it in the end rather than reading it in it’s entirety as a lot of his suggestions were just plain common sense to me and already long established habits in our home. However, I found the chapters on keepsakes and artwork particularly helpful as I tend to be a sentimental creature, hoarding every memento and piece of paper that may be able to document our lives. After reading this I was able to sort through my two boxes of keepsakes and narrow the items down to one box. So although a lot of this book was not new information to me, for the slightly less organised, untidy people out there it definitely could give you some practical tips on decluttering, which will then free you up to live a simpler, less distracted life.

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A Life That Says Welcome by Karen Ehman

A Life That Says Welcome is a practical introduction to the art of hospitality, which has much less to do with entertaining and much more to do with the condition of your heart. I’m not entirely sure what I was expecting from this book, but the title appealed to me and I enjoyed it nonetheless. In part it is a record of the authors own experience of running an open home, as well as a practical guide covering chapters on decluttering, cleaning and even easy recipe ideas to help you get started. It’s definitely a book to read with a notebook at hand, ready for jotting down all the ideas you can transfer to your own home. I particularly enjoyed how she affirmed our call to hospitality through searching the scriptures and in particular her reference to Mary & Martha has really stuck with me. She had some refreshing points about these two sisters and from now on I will remember that opening my home and serving others first starts with opening my heart in the presence of the Lord.

What books have you been reading lately?