{Dear Husby} 10 Years and Counting…

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Dear Husby,

Well it has been ten years, Husby. TEN YEARS!

Ten years since I walked down the aisle to you. Ten years since we became Mr & Mrs. Ten years since we officially became a family, just you and me.

And ten years on you remain the most important person in my life. The person who knows my hopes and dreams, my fears and failures and continues to love me through it all.

Thank you for honouring those vows, for sticking with me through the better and worse of marriage and for loving me so well. You really are one of a kind and I really do cherish you.

All of my heart…

… these ten years and still counting,

Wifey xx

Happy 10th Wedding Anniversary!

{Dear Daddy}

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Dear Daddy Man, you really know how to woo a girl! I’m so lucky that I get to date a guy that takes me plane spotting at the airport and lets me eat the chocolate cake all to myself. Thanks for being the best example of what a boy should be; kind, generous, fun and romantic, you set the bar high and love me so well. Lots of love, bear hugs and crazy smiles from you number one girl, Blossom xx

Dearest Dada, when I grow up I want to be an adventurer, a dare devil, the female equivalent of Bear Grylls! That’s why I like to crawl backwards through bushes, poke worms and swing from bathroom sinks. Thanks for teaching me to brave, for catching me when I fall and laughing with me when I lick my stinky feet – not many people find that cute, but you just get me. Lots of love, flying kisses and belly laughs, from your cheeky mini me, Bubbles xx

Dear Husby, another year and another daddy’s day. How lucky we are to have you in our lives to celebrate. I know you prefer words over gifts so let me say it loud and clear. I love you. I appreciate you. I believe in you. All of my heart, Wifey xx

Happy Father’s Day!


An Open Letter to Malawi

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Dear Malawi,

I can hardly believe that it has been 10 years since we first became acquainted with one another, nor can I believe it is now five years since I last visited you. I never intended for it to be this long but you know how it is, life changes even when you don’t want it too.

For such a long time so many of my dreams involved you, you made me feel so alive, so full of purpose and I want you to know letting you go was not easy, even if it was the right thing to do.

Out of all the sacrifices we made along the way, more than passing up career opportunities, more than selling our house, sacrificing our dream of you was the hardest and most heartbreaking decision we ever had to make.

Perhaps the timing wasn’t right. Perhaps it was time to dream new dreams. Perhaps amongst all the good intentions we had lost focus of the most important thing.

Whatever it was, a future without you was a daunting prospect and for some time I found myself grieving for the life we could have lived and the dreams that would never come to be.

Five years on and my heart has slowly healed. I am now a mother to two sweet little blonde girls and for the first time in a long time I find myself happy being stuck on this little rock that I get to call home.

In the end thanks to knowing and losing you I have learnt to live life with an open heart. I know myself better, my passions more clearly and I have come to see the journey God had us on all along.

It’s fair to say that life isn’t what we originally planned but it has turned out to be pretty great anyway. And you’ll be pleased to know that with time I have found the courage to dare to dream again.

Malawi, please know you will always be held in my heart with such fondness, I am who I am today because of the part you played in my life.

Thank you for having such a warm and generous heart. Thank you for being part of my story.

Yours truly,

Jessica x

P.S. I promise to visit again one day, hopefully with those two blonde girls I was telling you about. I want them to know you like I do.

An Open Letter to Chocolate Cake

An Open Letter to Chocolate Cake. Part of the Open Letters found at The Open Home.

Dear Chocolate Cake,

I’ve spoken with Discipline and this thing we have together is over.

We had a good thing going you and I but we knew it had to end sometime, we couldn’t continue like this. All the secrecy and the lies, it’s gotten out of control. Our attachment to one another has become unhealthy.

I came clean to Discipline and he is willing to take me back and I want to give it a go with him, honestly I do. I just need to get it right this time. He is so good for me and deep down I know he is what I want most.

Life with him gives me so much more time and energy for the things that truly bring joy to my life. We’re going to do everything we can to make our relationship work, we’re even going to the gym together now, it’s the best of therapy.

What we had together was wrong, I know that now. Please don’t contact me and don’t be surprised when I ignore you in public.  In time perhaps we can be friends but for now we need some distance between us. I know this must be hard for you to hear but you will find others, I know you will.

Yours truly,

Jessica x

P.S. I’m calling it off with Vicky Sponge and Lemon Drizzle too.

An Open Letter to Discipline


Dear Discipline,

How long has it been now? Two, three, maybe even four years? Bit by bit our relationship has been under strain, a distance has grown between us and you have become elusive in my life.

I realise I need to take responsibility for this breakdown. I have been tired and weak and easily lured by the attractive lifestyle that Laziness had to offer. Mindlessness got to me too and together they have slowly wormed their way into my life, leaving me with unhealthy attachments that have led me away from you.

The truth is though, Discipline it is you I want and it is you I need. Please take me back, I beg of you! I will call it off with chocolate cake and carrot cake and every cake for that matter, I promise. I just want to walk life with you again. To feel healthy and fit and strong, full of life and vitality.

We were great together weren’t we?  I know it won’t always be easy but I am willing to try. I promise to work hard and we can start small, each new step a success in it’s own right. Together we will be happy, we will be successful and we will live life to the full, I just know it.

My mind has been so negative without you, my heart weary, my body weak. But today marks a new beginning. A chance to choose positivity and to change perspective. A chance to stop making excuses and to start making progress. A chance to stop wishing and start doing. A chance to choose what I want most over what I want now. A chance to live in freedom.

With love and renewed determination,

Jessica x

P.S. Can’t you just feel those positive vibes? I even bought weights, that’s how serious I am.

{Dear Husby}

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Dear Husby,

Your Christmas present from you to me is definitely one of the best presents I’ve ever had. It’s up there with my heirloom treasures, the surprise lemon meringue pie picnic and the Aladdin trilogy that made me cry!  This year you really nailed my love languages, the gift of quality time couldn’t be more perfect!

Thanks for carrying the ridiculously big box all the way up the Mount in the early hours of Christmas morning just so I could be wowed.

I can’t wait to put on my hiking gear and start trudging round this little island with you again. Rain or shine I’m gonna be one happy wifey lady!

All of my heart,

Wifey xx

{Dear Husby}

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Dear Husby,

Once upon a date night you asked me which ten celebrities I would invite to a dinner party and never one to think on the spot I couldn’t possibly give you an answer without giving it some serious thought. Well it’s been about 18 months and finally, I have completed my guest list! Wanna know who made the cut?

Ladies first we have Maggie Smith, Angela Lansbury, Emma Watson and Mayim Bialik.

Followed by the gents, David Suchet, Stephen Fry, Ewan McGregor, Morgan Freeman, Benedict Cumberbatch and Bear Grylls.

I hope you are in approval as I intend to send out the invitations later this week. We may need to finally invest in some wine glasses and a few more chairs for that matter, we can’t really ask Dame Maggie to perch on one of the garden chairs like we do with the youth group!

As always, thanks for helping me to ponder the important questions in life, the ones that stretch my mind and grow my imagination. Dating you is always full of fun, I’m a very lucky lady.

All of my heart,

Wifey xx

Next date night question for you to ponder… “If you bought a boat, what would you name it?”